By Tiya Parmar
We all have insecurities. It is like the toy that comes along with McDonald's Happy Meal- insecurities come along with being a human. Our insecurities may differ depending on our lives, our bodies, and our flaws as we perceive them. However, we all have them, whether it be a child, an adult, a man, a woman; every human being, fictional and non-fictional, has them. And despite knowing this, we are scared and ashamed of talking and sharing our insecurities.
One of my insecurities has always been my (sometimes!) sweaty and stinking armpits. Especially when sweat patches would form on my t-shirts. It's ridiculous, I know! Sweating is a natural phenomenon, and the reason why perfumes and deodorants exist. That didn't stop me from being insecure about it, though. But being rational hardly ever does.
(Also, in my defense, I am someone who sweats a lot without much persuasion. One of the reasons why I hate summers'.)
So, this one time, me and a couple of my friends are getting ready for an after school party or event, and I am sweating profusely. I've already changed from my uniform into a light gray t-shirt and naturally, sweat patches show up. I am standing, getting more and more uncomfortable in the sweltering washroom, when one of my friends' groans, "Ugh...does anyone have deo? I'm scared to lift my arms up." And then all of us were laughing and agreeing and stating reasons for hating sweating. Because, honestly, who even likes sweating?
Amidst all this, I forget that I was uncomfortable to begin with. It was such a profound feeling. There was something about hearing that you're not the only one who's scared of stinking up the entire place, that you can talk and laugh about it, remember that it's not that big a deal really. It was freeing and comforting.
What I had been trying to do earlier, was trying to forget that I was insecure. Not really acknowledging that having sweat patches mattered to me. But once I started laughing and talking about it, I had to acknowledge it, learn how to live despite it. Because insecurities and flaws never really go away (at least in my experience), you just learn how to deal with them, how to not care so much.
My mom once told me that it is important to learn how to laugh at yourself, at your flaws. It is this one simple act that can remind us that we are not perfect and neither is anybody else. And isn't that in itself perfection?