By Arshia Franklin
What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word ‘toxic’?
Controlling dominating abusive negative all these words come into my mind.
I’m sure most of us have come across or have had toxic people in our lives.
Some might say my boyfriend/girlfriend or ex and a few might even say friends.
Toxicity in a person or in a relationship doesn’t come automatically it’s cultivated with time some people turn toxic due to personal insecurities and inferiority complexes.
And when a person turns toxic they doesn’t realise that they are causing pain to the other person and there are various kinds of toxic people like some traits are that they become rude arrogant abusive they become dominant they just want things their way.
Such people don’t accept their mistakes and they react in a such a way that they make the opposite person feel that they are at fault.
If your girlfriend or boyfriend is unsupportive or unhealthy emotionally and who basically brings you down more than up in life is toxic, it’s the same even with friends and few might have toxic people in their family as well.
At times its very hard for people to agree to the fact that their close ones are toxic because of their attachment and their love for them.
Toxic people are draining, they leave you emotionally wiped out. They are self-centered, time with them is all about taking care of their business which usually leads you to getting frustrated,annoyed or angry.
They are supreme manipulators and they are such experts at it that you might not even realise it and then they tend to also turn you against the people that love you (specially your parents).
You’ll see people say, “they’re still your family”, just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life if they’re toxic. Blood means nothing sometimes. Don’t let people guilt you into being in contact with someone who isn’t good for your mental health.
If anyone that’s close to you tells you that someone in particular is toxic or someone who can’t see you grow in life, you need not get offended but instead just see if thats true keeping the fact aside that you care about that individual because no matter how close you are with someone, if they are toxic you need to distance yourself or just get rid of them because some people are like clouds, when they disappear it’s a beautiful day. They are the ones who’ll laugh at you during your downfall rather than giving you a hand for helping and motivating you and lifting you up ‘cause such people like to talk about the problem and not try to find a solution.
“Life is like an elevator. Sometimes you have to stop and let people off for your own good."