By Tiya Parmar
Everything around us, makes an impact on us. However, some things, inarguably, make a much more noticeable impact than other things. On that note, I have a confession to make- I haven’t been able to stop thinking about a dialogue from a movie I saw last saturday. Has it ever happened to you before? Something, often quite unremarkable, that makes you want to stay up at all hours of the night, just thinking and questioning and running around in dizzying circles? The dialogue, which is the culprit of my recent late night wanderings, is from the movie ‘People Like Us’. It isn’t anything extraordinarily remarkable or wonderful or mind blowing.
On the contrary, it is a very simple line- I hope you never have to know what it’s like to love someone, and then find out you’re not enough. The reason this particular line stands out for me is because it makes me want to ask- Isn’t that true for every kind of love that is out there? That no matter how much you love someone, you will never 'be enough' for them? Because, to 'be enough', people must always be able to fulfill the expectations that other people have of them. And, while you may be enough today, tomorrow will forever wait to tell a different story; today, I might want you to cry with me, while tomorrow I’ll want you to laugh with me. Besides, you’re not the only person I laugh with or cry with. All of us, in these little worlds of ours, are bound together in messy knots and each knot in this tethered mess is vital.
A person could be the most important person in your life, and yet you won’t drop each and everything just for them. Even for that one person you love the most, you won’t renounce your entire world. There’s always the other child, the other parent, the other sibling, the other friend, the other job, the other hobbies, so many other things that come second, but even then you won’t give up all of that for what comes first. Just like oxygen. It's impossible to live without it, but it isn't possible to live only on it. You need water and land and sun and shelter and food as well. Add to that, the fact that we always crave more.
Whether it be love or attention or joy or pain. When it comes to the matters of the heart, we can be the most selfish and greedy people. That is why we can’t ever 'be enough', we can't be a person's everything, their entire world. Because to be someone's entire world is quite a task, putting it lightly. We’re probably just the light in their eyes, or the joy in their heart, or the music to their ears or the scratch to their itch…? Honestly, that doesn't sound too bad, does it?